I don’t know about you, but I’ve never really planned for setbacks. Well, let me not lie. I am very Type A, so I always have a plan for a plan, but for the most part, I never actually planned on using those backup plans.
Friendships have never been my strong suit. For the most part they have ebbed and flowed with the different seasons of my life. I guess you can say that most of my friendships have always been a convenience -- they served me well for that particular season, but when that season was up, so was the friendship.
Unbeknownst to me, striving has always been a huge part of my life; It’s like a birthmark that I never knew I had, but has always been with me. Because of this embedded character trait, I was never satisfied with normal.
For the most part, I would say that I’ve always been a genuinely positive person. When I was younger, my sisters said that if they wanted to, they could’ve thrown me down the stairs and I would’ve still came back to them singing and smiling.
If we are being real, contentment is something that I’ve always struggled with. When I was going through high school, I would remember hating my small town, wishing I was in a more exciting and upwardly mobile city. I was so excited to move away and start college life.
The fear of failure is something that I've always personally struggled with. The idea of not being "successful" use to tear me up inside. "What if I don't pass my classes? What if I can't support myself and I have to move home? What if I put all this work in and have nothing to show for it?" These thoughts of failure would constantly plague my mind.
So many of us are constantly going, never taking the time to slow down or come up for air. Our schedules are jammed pack with responsibilities and our to-do lists appear to be never ending. This constant striving to be everything to all people is causing us to burn out.
One thing that I’ve noticed about us women is that we love to please! And because of that need to please, we have a hard time saying no. Our “yes man” spirit keeps us busy doing what we didn’t set out to do.
Let's go back to a moment in time -- a moment when you were so excited to start a new job, but a few days after the interview, you received an email saying you didn't get the position. Or maybe there was a moment when you applied to your top choice college and you received a letter saying you didn't get in.
When you get home from a long day of class or work, it’s easy to turn to the kitchen for relief. Your well-loved container of Talenti Gelato is there to greet you and your favorite bottle of wine is at hand to ease your nerves after a long, grueling day. However, after you down that container of Talenti, something is still there that needs to be addressed — your emotions.
If you know me personally, you would know that I am pretty great when it comes to discipline. I have no problem with work before play. In fact, majority of the time I confuse the two. For a Type A personality, it can be hard to distinguish between work and play. I find joy in working. I get high off of goal setting, working on a task, and finishing it to completion. Nothing gets me off like checking the last item off a to-do list, and as soon as I'm finished, I’m on to the next.
Do you ever feel like you're constantly striving? Do you ever feel like you are stretching yourself too thin, yearning to find balance between your life, relationships, and priorities? If you are, I'm pretty sure that you are a pretty busy woman. Busy working, going to class, attending Bible studies, and ministry events, and all while finding the time to tend to friends and family. I get it. As women, we have a laundry list of things to do and at the end of the day, we're just trying to accomplish something.
As I continue my journey towards entrepreneurship, each day as I work towards my goals, I realize how much of a struggle it actually is. Starting any blog, business, ministry, or organization isn't for the faint at heart. It requires boldness, courage, tenacity, and discipline, and for some of us, these traits don't come naturally. They are being developed.
Fear and self-doubt are nothing but stumbling blocks that prevent us from doing what we are called to do. The fear of not measuring up or not being successful will continue to dictate your results and life if you let it. We allow fear and self-doubt to cripple us from doing the things we desire and know that God has destined us to do.
Perfectionism is a personal trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations. For perfectionists, life is all about a person’s accomplishments or looks. Fear of failure is often a driving force in a perfectionist’s life.
The best way to stick to any new habit is to make it a lifestyle change. How many diets or exercise kicks have you experienced to discover a few weeks later that you were a little overly ambitious? It’s okay. I won’t judge you! Creating a healthy lifestyle is hard! That’s why I’ve provided you with seven steps to healthy eating.
As goal and purpose driven women we have a desire to do our best and succeed. Unfortunately, these desires and goals sometimes give rise to unwanted stress and overwhelm in our lives. We have so many things that we are aspiring to do and don’t know how those things are going to happen.
As women, God has given us one of the most intimate gifts -- the ability to love deeply and passionately. We feel so much love and compassion towards others that it’s easy to give it away. The problem is not that it's hard finding the capacity to love others. The most difficult problem presents itself when it comes to loving ourselves.